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Many people want to change their lives, yet they just don’t know how. Here’s a reader who wants to make a BIG life change:

I need to change my life! Currently I work as a restaurant supervisor at a large hotel here in California. I have this dream to work in London. I don’t have any savings at this point. How can I make this dream a reality? I am 52 years young. Thanks!

Wow! It’s good to see that you know what you want, and you are fairly specific about this. You want to live and work in London. If you work as a restaurant supervisor at a large hotel in California, it should be “doable” to find a similar job in London, if that is what you want. However, you need to start doing your homework right now.

You don’t mention whether or not you have ever been to London. If you haven’t actually traveled there, you might first start saving for a trip to London to see if it really is the place you’ve been dreaming about. Then, once you’re there, you can do some investigating. Find out what you need to do in order to move to England and work there. If you travel there, it will be easier to find out this information.

No doubt, you will need some sort of work permit and you might need to actually have a job set up in England first in order to get this permit. But you might be able to get a permit once you get there and start searching for a job. Either way, you need to know this before you can make other plans. So, either make plans to travel there to get more information or use the Internet to find out as much as you can about what is required to live and work in London.

Next, do you work for a chain of hotels? If so, could you be transferred to their London hotel and work in the restaurant there? Find out.

You don’t say whether you want to stay in the same line of work that you’re in now. So maybe you would like to do other work in London. Figure out what type of work you really, really want to do in London. Then, start searching for that type of work on the internet. There are all sorts of job boards. Just scout around on them to see what types of positions are available.

You might also find an online forum with members who live in London. Is there a forum where people talk about the best restaurants, hotels, etc. in London? If so, join it and just “listen” to the conversations there for a few weeks. Eventually, introduce yourself and tell people about your plan to move to London without giving them too much personal information. You might be surprised at how helpful people can and will be.

Any kind of move will require money. Figure out what it will cost to move to London. You don’t say whether you will have household items and furniture to take with you or whether you’d be happy renting a room in someone’s home or you hope to find a furnished apartment. Consider all the possibilities, then see which is the most “doable” option for you at this point. It might not be the ideal housing arrangement at first. But if it will allow you to live in London (which is your dream), once you have worked there for a few months and have accumulated some cash, you can find other options.

You might also look for other online forums related to relocating, then you can find out how other people decided to make a big life change by moving to another country.

Everyone has dreams. But to make those dreams come true you have to start taking action. But taking action can be fun! And, once you start to take action to make your dreams come true, you’ll be suprised at all the assistance that seems to start coming your way.

In my new book, The Life of Your Dreams - Building Your Life and Career Around the Things You Love Most - you’ll find out how realizing your life’s purpose can help you attain the life of your dreams - whether that life is in California or England. The book will be available in 2008, so we hope you’ll read it.

Good Luck!

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The other day my wife, Nanette, and I were talking. I said something I want to share here because it is part of my message of living the life of your dreams.

Nanette loves decorating and designing. And me - well not so much. I love money and the ideas I am sharing in my book. And Nanette - well, not so much.

I said something like this: “Nanette, you know how you love decorating and designing things? When you wake up in the morning the first thing you do is look around the room and see things you would like to do and change. When you see me, the first thing you think about is whether my clothes match or not ( which they sometimes don’t). Well, that’s the way I am about the ideas in my new book and about money. These ideas are just part of me, like the way you feel about decorating and designing things is part of you.”

Now, here’s what I’d like to share with you who are reading this right now. I realize I will never become that interested in decorating or designing things. And Nanette will never be as interested in writing and money the way I am. But the beauty of our relationship is that we accept and celebrate our uniqueness, the things that make both of us who we are, even though we are very different in many ways.

The first thing I think of when I wake up is my new book and how I hope to get my message across to people everywhere. I used to wake up and the first thing I thought of was something about money and savings, but this new message has taken its place because it brings together all the things I’ve thought and wondered about my entire life.

Each of us is born with certain unique interests and we just naturally think of them. We haven’t chosen them over people and other things in our lives. They just are. When these thoughts and ideas are accepted and encouraged it makes us even happier.

The Bible calls them “talents.” Best-selling author Barbara Sher has the same message - that we are each to bring out those interests and find our work related to them. She isn’t advocating changing your spouse, just how you spend more of your time. It is motivating and energizing and fun!

My message is the same. We are to find and recognize those talents, our unique potentials, and bring them forth because that is where happiness lives for us. In my mind at least, my message extends the concept that we are to do the things we love but to do them with the purpose of being “in service to” our loved ones. I am to think how bringing forth my best potential at this time is, and can also be, a blessing to my loved ones. Then I am to help them do the same, which means to help them bring forth their talents in service to their loved ones. That is Love (the verb), and it is part of the never ending Circle of Love.

That’s also the Christmas message, which sometimes gets lost in the process of the cultural ritual of buying and giving gifts. The purpose of gifts is to make the person happy. But we all have so many material things. What will make us happiest is acceptance and support as we find and bring forth our potentials.

Happy holidays,

Jerry W. Willis

Go to:  http://jerrywwillis.com/_mgxroot/page_10744.html and submit your information to receive a free E-Workbook to start the journey to the Life of Your Dreams.  While you are there review the www.jerrywwillis.com website to learn how to order the book explaining “A PIL for Happier Kids (and Parents) - A Purpose in Life that makes sense to people like me”.

Love,

Jerry W. Willis

www.jerrywwillis.com

http://thelifeofyourdreamsbooks.com